September 11th, 2005 by aejhay19
The key to knowing his intentions may be trusting your intuition.
A common story: Girl meets boy. Boy calls girl. Girl and boy go on date. They go on several dates and more than one time, boy says he likes girl… a lot.
Cut to: several weeks later. Boy hasn’t called girl. Girl is wondering if something is wrong with boy, herself and/or their “relationship”. The simple truth is that there is no “relationship”. What we women seem to sometimes forget in the throes of passion/emotion is that our instincts are there for a reason – so we can fall back on them! If you’re wondering if something is wrong, it probably is…
The best thing you can learn to do for yourself is learn to read the signs. Actions speak louder than words… regardless of if they’re what you want to hear or not!
| Three signs he’s a keeper (and indicators he’s got to go!): |
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You’re on the right road if:
He calls and/or emails you often (and you feel good about it, i.e., he’s not a stalker)!
If you’re on his mind, you’ll know by the time he puts into wooing you. This doesn’t mean he should be contacting you 24/7 (you want a guy with his own life after all), it just means that you’ll feel how much he’s interested because his actions (picking up the phone/emailing even when he’s busy at work) tell you so.
Bonus behavior:
He takes the time to get detailed about something little that amuses him or makes him happy.
Telling you the things he saw on the run he took that morning or some silly procedure in his office that his boss takes really seriously may seem trivial when you’re thinking about getting serious, but it’s not. He’s sharing his perspective – offering you a piece of himself.
Clear the path for something else if:
He doesn’t call you regularly (even if he tells you little details when he does get in touch).
Not only does the disappearing act indicate that he doesn’t care, but it hurts. There is no such thing as “forgetting to call” in the early stages, and if you’re already well into a relationship and he’s not calling/coming around… well… remember that thing about actions? If he wanted to spend time with you, he would.
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This guy has potential if:
He asks about your day/week/plans/life… in short, YOU – and shows genuine interest in your response.
If a guy is interested in a relationship, he’s going to ask questions and listen to your answers. Those answers will tell him if this is the right thing for him… and remember, you should be asking questions, too. This isn’t all about him liking you – it’s about you liking him, too!
Bonus behavior:
The things you say come back in conversation at a later date.
When you’re driving past the amazing restaurant you mentioned a few weeks ago and he asks if it’s the place you spoke about (and even better, suggests that you two go back together), it shows he was paying attention to what you said. That means he cares about knowing your likes so he can make you happy.
Ditch the dude if:
It’s all about him, all the time.
If you’re not of interest, then he’s not really interested in anything beyond a fling/hook up. Pure and simple. Move on.
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Love may be on his mind if:
He invites you to meet his family.
It’s possible that you may meet his friends if he sees the two of you as a fling, but bringing you into the familial fold definitely means he’s expecting you to be around for a while.
Bonus behavior:
He introduces you as his girlfriend or “(the girl/woman/person/one) I’ve been telling you about”.
If he’s talking about you when you’re not around/preparing the introduction not only does it show he’s been thinking about you, but he’s been thinking about you as part of his life.
He’s just not into you if:
You run into his friends/a family member and he doesn’t introduce you at all or breezes through a “yeah, this is so and so” then quickly changes the subject.
No guy who is into you will make you feel insignificant enough to skip your name or act like you’re not standing there. If there’s no common courtesy, cut the cord.
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